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Nicole Kidman is reflecting on how her life has shifted following her divorce from Keith Urban. In an interview with British Vogue, the 59-year-old actress spoke about navigating change, vulnerability, and resilience after the end of her 19-year marriage.
Kidman filed for divorce from Urban in September 2025, with the split finalized in January. The couple, who married in 2006, share daughters Sunday Rose, 18, and Faith Margaret, 15. Kidman also has two children, Bella, 33, and Connor, 31, from her marriage to Tom Cruise.
Discussing her philosophy of living a "well-examined life," Kidman explained: "Trying things, making mistakes, failing, getting back up, moving on, embracing love, staying open, keeping the heart open and the possibilities." She admitted that the separation forced her to confront unexpected realities.
"I didn't expect this. I had a different view of what my life was going to be, but this is what it is now. You make all these plans and you have all these ideas of what it's all going to be like and then it's... not. You have to adjust. You adapt. The future, it's completely unknown to me right now."
Kidman acknowledged moments of fear and fragility. "There was a point where I was very fearful and deeply vulnerable, which is exposing. And then at the same time [I'm] going, 'Well, I can either really not confront it and just curl up, or I can just go forward with an enormous amount of hope.'"
Kidman reflected on her earlier marriage to Tom Cruise, recalling how she was cautioned that being married to such a high-profile star could overshadow her own career. At the time, she was in her early twenties and deeply in love, and the warnings didn't matter to her. She prioritized her relationship over professional concerns, believing that marrying the man she loved was more important than any potential impact on her career.
Kidman credited her late mother, Janelle Ann Kidman, and other women mentors for shaping her outlook. "Nicole, you just got to take it on the chin," she recalled being told. "Once you accept that, instead of going, 'Well that's not fair,' you go, 'Yes, actually it isn't fair. Because things are not fair.'"
